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I have a soap box reserved for my disdain for "the nuclear family" and my deep-held belief that family structures and support systems need to be diverse to thrive. Yet somehow, I never connected this to the idea of polyamory. Regardless of sexual/romantic relationships, I think the idea of one person fulfilling all needs is naive. Thank you for the thought provoking read! Bonus: you made me like Challengers more than I did in my first pass.

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Appreciate you reading. I think this also relates to bell hooks idea of cultivate love from all angles — romantic, friendship, intimate rather than relying on only one to save you.

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I loved this. I loved Past Lives (yearner) and Challengers (fun) for different reasons and never connected them to the larger moment we're in. The sociologist in me wonders if the rise of polyamory/comfort with open arrangements would exist if the idea of the perfect marriage and the white picket fence had been allowed to be a choice vs something shoved down our throats for so long: people wouldn't want to break free of an arrangement if other possibilities had been allowed to exist.

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100%. one for the things that the Ezra Klein podcast offers is that monogamy is a pretty new approach for humanity. it goes as far to call it a 'social experiment' which I found compelling as it suggested that this is not 'the natural way to be,' especially for the global majority. thank you so much for reading <3

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Finally just watched so reread. So, so good.

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lol no but hot

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